For many of us, that was the mantra we grew up hearing. It didn’t necessarily mean that abuse was happening in our homes, but it did reflect the belief that family privacy was to be valued and protected. Over the years, communities have come to appreciate the need to balance children's fundamental right to be safe with parents' right to raise their children as they see fit. Mandatory child protection reporting laws have played a significant role in detecting and preventing the abuse of children by caregivers.
Domestic violence is an issue that affects us all. You might have even experienced it firsthand yourself. Or maybe you have a friend, a family member, or a co-worker who has been in an abusive relationship. Domestic violence is far-reaching and the emotional, physical and financial implications can be long-lasting. From November 25th to December 10th, we’re joining in the 16 Days of Action to help end domestic violence. Each day, we’ll outline a different action that we can all take in the workplace to help reduce this worldwide issue.
Three years ago Ray Rice was suspended from the NFL after video footage of his domestic assault became public. Slava Voynov was suspended from play in NHL after he was arrested on domestic violence charges and Jian Ghomeshi was fired from CBC after information about his violent behaviour in personal relationships became public knowledge. All of these incidents happened within weeks of each other. Each case brought a startling glare of public scrutiny and criticism for how the organizations initially responded to the allegations.
Ontario has a spotlight on workplace domestic violence. The vast majority of men involved in the study are in heterosexual relationships and have been referred to intervention by the criminal justice system. Like victimization, the high costs of offender behaviour to the workplace include compromised worker safety, lost productivity, increased risk for accidents and exposure to liability. The study found that most employers lack adequate resources to help perpetrators deal with the issue. It’s not just employers. Society as a whole distances itself from violent men and doesn’t provide much in the way of opportunity for change.
We know from the 2014 national survey that one in three Canadian workers experiences domestic violence. More than half experience it while they are at work. When we began offering workplace education about domestic violence through the Make It Our Business (MIOB) training program, one of early questions we were asked was, “How is domestic violence a problem for employers?” High profile cases like that of Ray Rice from the NFL, and Jian Ghomeshi from the CBC, highlighted one important reason as the potential for reputational damage.
The benefits of mindfulness are being experienced and spoken of world-wide which is very exciting. More and more people are beginning to experience when they take time to stop, go inward and train their mind to be still, a depth of healing happens on many different levels. This has been my experience – and it all started 23 years ago when I went on my first meditation retreat on Vancouver Island.
What is Person’s Day? It’s the day when the Supreme Court of Canada officially declared females as “persons.” Yes, today we might think the idea that women not being viewed as persons is a wild and backward ideal, but this was the reality a mere 90 years ago. And in many parts of the world, women today are still fighting for the chance to be heard and viewed as equals.
A zero tolerance policy on domestic violence at work sounds like an easy solution. Step out of line and that’s it – you will lose your job. It seems a straight path for moving forward; and yet the unwavering complexity in relationships should make us all pause to reflect on the potential downside of one-size fits all solutions. Simple, clean, standardized answers rarely work when it comes to people. We need to open a space for discussion about zero tolerance and how it might not actually give us what we are really seeking.
A peaceful workplace. It should be the goal of every organization or business. When employees come to work excited to see their co-workers and actually enjoy doing their job, it creates a more peaceful and productive work environment for everyone. There are many ways that companies can work toward creating this positive atmosphere in the workplace, including training, open communication and a healthy work/life balance. Read on to see how you can foster contentment and peacefulness in the workplace.
When we began offering workplace education about domestic violence through the Make It Our Business (MIOB) training program, one of early questions we were asked was, “How is domestic violence a problem for employers?” High profile cases like that of Ray Rice and the NFL, and Jian Ghomeshi and the CBC, should make the reasons crystal clear. They are another illustration of how violence that happens in someone’s personal life can have a huge impact on the workplace. The NFL and CBC came under intense fire for the way that they handled the situations.